Why do people lie to themselves

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  • 1 To prevent loss of effort

    If a person doesn't like their relationship partner but was married for years then they might claim that they love their partner just because they don't want all of the effort they invested to be gone.

  • 2 Not to feel helpless

    A person can lie to themselves in order to believe that they have lots of options. A person can claim that they chose something because they liked it and feel good instead of admitting that they couldn't get something better.

  • 3 To raise their self-esteem

    A person can create a lie and believe it just to feel good about themselves. A person can convince themselves that they don't want to get rich because money is bad just because they don't want to admit that they hate hard work. 

  • 4 To escape from reality

    A person can lie to themselves to escape from reality or to deny a fact. A person can claim that they hate noise just because they feel uncomfortable in social situations.

  • 5 Lack of courage

    A person can lie to themselves because they don't have enough courage to face a problem. A person might claim that they are unlucky instead of admitting that they didn't try hard enough (See why some people believe in luck).

  • 6 To maintain their psychological stability

    A person can lie to themselves in order to maintain their psychological stability. For example, by believing that all rich people are thieves, a person can feel good about themselves and not feel bad about their lack of money.

  • 7 To avoid doing any effort

    A person can lie to themselves because they are too lazy to do hard work. A person can blame their weight on their genes instead of trying to exercise in order to save themselves the effort.

  • 8 Because the truth can hurt

    A person can lie to themselves if they believe that the truth might hurt them so much. In such a case, the subconscious mind creates a lie and the person believes in it.

  • 9 To give up without feeling bad

    A person can lie to themselves to allow himself to give up without feeling bad. A person can claim that they didn't really want something that much instead of admitting that they just gave up (See bad moods explained).

  • 10 To keep their good image

    A person can lie to themselves to keep the good image in front of others. Instead of admitting that they didn't succeed in something, a person can claim that they didn't like it.

  • 11 Many people prefer self-deception over reality

    It's much easier for some people to deceive themselves than to face a harsh reality that they can't deal with.